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Perspective Help - Pt. 2

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    Let me start by saying thanks to all the strong women out there who lift themselves and each other when times are tough.  I have visited this site often since my best friend was diagnosed with breast cancer last summer and have received invaluable information, now I need a little more free advice and reassurance.  My friend (35) has completed most of her treatments and surgery, and I've been there with her through thick and thin, and am honored and proud to have been there with her through it all.  She is an amazing woman and I love her very much, like a sister.

    My problem now is I need to be able to take a step back and get out of "fighting mode".  That will be hard, it feels like I've been there with her for so long.  It's not like I want to pretend like this never all happened, that's ridiculous.  I've had serious, life threatening health problems myself (although not cancer) and I understand all too well that when you've faced mortality you can never be the same and can speaking for myself, wouldn't want to. 

    And I also know that you can't dwell on when you might have a recurrence (or not) and that it can be downright irritating for people to constantly be hovering with "How are you?", no matter how well-meaninged they might be.  Honestly I've tried not to do that to her.  She's smart, though, and can probably see right through all that.  

    At some point I became obsessed with helping her through cancer, but I got stuck there.  It's not healthy, I'm emotionally and mentally exhausted, I feel clingy with her and weirdly needy (which is not really me and frankly not the most desireable quality in a friend), and I need to shake myself out of this...  I need to quit the mind f-ing. 
     
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    I think you guys should have a celebration. Whether its a night out, a weekend trip, or whatever, Celebrate the cancer being gone and put closure to it. Just say goodbye!
     
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